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I think we all get this kind of guilt when dealing with things. We all ought to do more for the environment, but we need to get to the shops, so we drive or take the bus because carrying all those bags is just too much. We ought to check on our elderly neighbours more, but other things get in the way, then it's too late to visit, so we just phone instead. We ought to eat healthier, but when at the supermarket, don't those sugary treats look nice. Replacing ought with should is a good idea. We should be doing these things and our sense of duty to the community does help here, but you also have to balance what is healthy for yourself too. If you are giving your time freely and totally to other things, you will neglect yourself and your own needs. You have to make sure you have a balance. It's true that sometimes our community does need our help, I help out in mine whenever I can and have free time, but this doesn't mean that I ignore my own needs just to fulfil the communities needs. I am a carer for my parents, so that does take up some of my days, then work obviously takes up time too, but I do try and get involved with community projects whenever I can, such as helping to clean our local river, planting flowers under street signs to make them look more pretty, volunteering with the local drop-in centre and helping to organise walks for the local ramblers, whose membership is almost all 65+ so I am pretty much the youngest there at almost 50. I do these things because I like helping people, not because I should. However, I do have things that I "should" be doing but just think "yes I ought to do that." So yes I will challenge myself too.
You seem like a person who "goes out and does things" and gets on with it, pretty much without the need for motivation. The things you have written so far in this blog and the videos show that you are committed to doing things, without the need for someone to tell you to do them. Or have I just totally missed the point here? I realise you are critical of yourself as I have read this before on your blog, but sometimes we can be too harsh on ourselves, so I just want to say, you are doing fine.
Paul Campbell:
May 08, 2021 at 04:50 PM
I think we all get this kind of guilt when dealing with things. We all ought to do more for the environment, but we need to get to the shops, so we drive or take the bus because carrying all those bags is just too much. We ought to check on our elderly neighbours more, but other things get in the way, then it's too late to visit, so we just phone instead. We ought to eat healthier, but when at the supermarket, don't those sugary treats look nice. Replacing ought with should is a good idea. We should be doing these things and our sense of duty to the community does help here, but you also have to balance what is healthy for yourself too. If you are giving your time freely and totally to other things, you will neglect yourself and your own needs. You have to make sure you have a balance. It's true that sometimes our community does need our help, I help out in mine whenever I can and have free time, but this doesn't mean that I ignore my own needs just to fulfil the communities needs. I am a carer for my parents, so that does take up some of my days, then work obviously takes up time too, but I do try and get involved with community projects whenever I can, such as helping to clean our local river, planting flowers under street signs to make them look more pretty, volunteering with the local drop-in centre and helping to organise walks for the local ramblers, whose membership is almost all 65+ so I am pretty much the youngest there at almost 50. I do these things because I like helping people, not because I should. However, I do have things that I "should" be doing but just think "yes I ought to do that." So yes I will challenge myself too.
You seem like a person who "goes out and does things" and gets on with it, pretty much without the need for motivation. The things you have written so far in this blog and the videos show that you are committed to doing things, without the need for someone to tell you to do them. Or have I just totally missed the point here? I realise you are critical of yourself as I have read this before on your blog, but sometimes we can be too harsh on ourselves, so I just want to say, you are doing fine.